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Thinking of Getting Remarried After Your Divorce? 5 Things to Consider

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Wheaton family law attorneys, divorced parents, premarital counseling, prenuptial agreement, remarriageIf your marriage has ended in divorce, you have likely gone through some difficulty as you worked to separate your life, your finances, your possessions, and your living arrangements from your ex-spouse. Life goes on, however, and before you know it, you may meet someone new and consider getting married a second time.

But before you jump into a new commitment, you should be aware that second marriages are even more likely to end in divorce. In order to avoid repeating your mistakes (or making some new ones), consider five things before getting remarried:

  1. Take your time - It can be easy to rush into a new relationship after the heartbreak of divorce. However, it is best to make sure you have fully recovered and are viewing your situation with clear eyes. Be sure you are ready to make a commitment to your new partner, and take the time to build a good foundation for your relationship and manage your expectations for your life together.

  2. Understand your finances - Before getting remarried, have a full understanding of your financial situation, including your income, assets, and debts. Discuss these matters with your new partner, ensuring you both agree about how you will share income and pay expenses. Check your divorce agreement to see how remarrying will affect the amount of spousal support you pay or receive.

  3. Prepare your children - Children of divorced parents often hold out hope that their parents will get back together, so they may be unhappy about your remarriage. They may also have difficulty managing new living arrangements and forming relationships with step-siblings. Be sure to talk to your children about your plans, giving them time to adjust to their changing situation and helping them understand that you will always love them and be there for them, no matter what.

  4. Think about living arrangements - Will you be moving into your new partner’s home, will he or she be moving in with you, or will you be finding a new place to live together? Living in a house that used to be your or your partner’s marital home can be emotionally difficult, so it may be better to make a fresh start somewhere else. You should also be aware of whether moving to a new home will affect your parenting time with your children, including the time and cost of transportation between your home and your ex-spouse’s homes.

  5. Attend counseling - Premarital counseling is a good idea for any couple, but it can be especially helpful for people getting remarried, allowing them to understand the baggage that they are bringing into the relationship and work on effective communication and conflict resolution. Family counseling is also often a good idea, since it can help children come to terms with their changing family arrangements and build good relationships with their parents and step-parents.

Contact a DuPage County Divorce Lawyer

If you are planning to get remarried, the attorneys of Anderson & Associates, P.C. can help you understand how this change will affect your rights and obligations as specified in your divorce agreement. You may also want to consider a prenuptial agreement, which can provide you with peace of mind that you and your children will have financial security if your second marriage ends. Contact our Wheaton family law attorneys at 630-653-9400 to schedule a free consultation.

Sources:

http://www.divorcemag.com/blog/premarital-counseling-helps-prevent-future-divorce

http://www.divorcemag.com/blog/remarriage-after-a-divorce-things-to-keep-in-mind

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/lee-gaitan/five-tips-for-a-successfu_b_6888984.html

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