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5 Ways to Make Your Illinois Divorce Less Painful

DuPage County divorce attorneyIf you are going through a divorce, you have probably heard plenty of advice and consolation, such as “Just think of how much happier you will be,” or “You always deserved better than that.” While these words can show how many people are around to support you, they do not erase the pain that a broken marriage brings. While divorce is never fun, you do not have to suffer. These tips can help you prepare yourself for divorce so you can come out on the other side peaceful and content:

1. Get Your Priorities Straight

You should sit down and take some time to figure out what you actually want out of the divorce and what your emotions are telling you that you need. Make a list of specific assets that you absolutely need and ones that you can live without. A list like this can help you focus on what is important once you begin negotiations with your spouse.

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5 Courtroom Etiquette Tips for Illinois Divorce Proceedings

Naperville divorce attorneyEvery time you appear in court, you are being analyzed. The judge will observe you to determine whether or not you should be taken seriously and if your arguments are valid. If you appear to be disrespectful and ignorant of courtroom rules and conduct, you might not be taken as seriously as you want to be. This can make a big difference in divorce cases, because those who are not taken seriously by the judge are less likely to receive a judgment that is in their favor. Understanding what is expected of you when you go to court to litigate your divorce is crucial to a successful outcome. Here are some tips for following proper etiquette when in divorce court:

1. Dress Appropriately

You want the judge to focus on your legal case, not your appearance, so it is important that you dress appropriately and respectfully when you go to court. The basic rule of thumb is to dress as if you were going to work in an office. Business casual attire means skirts or dress pants, blouses, button-down shirts, slacks, khakis, and nice shoes. You should not wear T-shirts, jeans, sneakers, dirty clothing, or clothing with holes in it. 

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3 Reasons Why Divorce With Children Can Be More Complicated

Naperville divorce attorney child custodyThough not all married couples have children, a lot of them do. When these married couples get divorced, they will have different legal issues to address than couples who do not have children. All parents can agree that children are one of the top priorities in their lives, and they will want to protect their children’s best interests during their divorce. Here are three reasons why divorce with children is not the same as divorce without children:

1. There Are More Topics to Discuss Legally

Obvious issues that need to be discussed in divorces that involve children are custody arrangements and child support payments. These issues may also affect other decisions, such as who gets the house (since a parent may wish to continue living in their home with their children), vehicles (which are used to transport children), and other property (such as children’s toys).

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4 Common Mistakes Parents Make During a Divorce

Glen Ellyn divorce lawyerDivorce is stressful for everyone in the family, especially the children. Parents are not perfect--they can, and probably will, make mistakes. However, understanding common mistakes that parents make during a divorce can increase your chances of avoiding them.

1. Making the Child the Messenger

When you are going through a divorce, you probably do not want to talk to your ex. Since the child is the common factor between both of the parents, they are often told to deliver messages to the other parent. This can be stressful for the child and often makes them feel like they are in the middle of everything. Your parenting relationship will continue with your ex for a while, and maintaining decent communication between the two of you will make things easier for everyone.

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How Children Are Affected By Divorce at Different Ages

DuPage County divorce attorney parents childrenThe breakdown of a marriage is a stressful, difficult experience, not only for the spouses, but also for their children. When parents decide to get divorced, it may ultimately be the best decision for their family, but it can also affect their children in a variety of ways. In order to protect children and provide them with the support they need, it is important to understand the impact that divorce can have on them and how these effects vary depending on children’s age.

Babies and Toddlers

Small children are still developing cognitively, and they will struggle to understand what is happening when their parents break up. However, they do recognize emotions, and they will be affected by the tension and conflict between parents. They may become irritable, they might have difficulties eating and sleeping, and their development may slow or regress.

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Common Reasons Why Marriages End in Divorce

Wheaton divorce lawyer marital difficultiesFew people enter a marriage expecting their relationship to end, but unfortunately, divorce is all too common. Marriage takes a lot of work, and spouses will need to put in time and effort throughout their years of partnership if they want to keep their relationship strong. There are a wide variety of reasons why marriages break down, but here are some of the most common issues that can lead to marital difficulties, and eventually to divorce:

  • Money problems - Financial issues can be one of the primary sources of disagreement in a marriage. When couples do not discuss their outstanding debt, including student loans and credit card debts, before getting married, they may find that these obligations affect their plans for buying a house, having children, or maintaining the standard of living they expect. Couples also often disagree about budgeting, expenses, and purchases, and this can be a major source of stress in their relationship.
  • Changing plans and expectations - People’s ideas of what they want out of their life can often change as they get older, and this may lead spouses to grow apart as they discover they have differing goals or plans for the future.
  • Failure to stay connected and committed - A healthy relationship requires commitment from both parties. Unfortunately, people often become complacent in their marriage, failing to regularly communicate with their spouse and be there for them. 
  • Lack of intimacy - A failure to regularly communicate often leads to a lack of a physical and emotional connection as well. When a couple becomes little more than roommates rather than partners, this can make divorce likely.
  • Religion - Spouses who do not share the same beliefs may be able to overcome these differences early in their relationships, but these issues can create a rift later in a marriage, especially when disagreements arise related to family expectations, holiday celebrations, traditions, and how children will be raised.
  • Family issues - Relationship issues can result when a spouse does not get along with their in-laws or when they are not prepared for a certain level of involvement in their lives from other family members. Children can also affect a marriage, especially when parents focus on their children at the expense of their own relationship.

Contact a Wheaton Family Law Attorney

Each of these issues on their own may not spell the end of a marriage, but the combination of multiple factors, along with other reasons that may be unique to each individual situation, can cause the irretrievable breakdown of a relationship. If you have reached the point where you feel that ending your marriage is the best solution for you, the attorneys of Anderson & Associates, P.C. can help you understand your rights and work with you to complete the legal requirements for dissolving your marriage. Contact a DuPage County divorce lawyer at 630-653-9400 to schedule a free consultation.

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Preparing Children For Living in Two Homes After Divorce

Wheaton divorce attorney helping parents and children adjust to divorceThe end of a marriage can be difficult for all family members, but when parents decide to get a divorce, they may not realize the effects that it can have on their children. Even when parents do their best to prepare their children for divorce, kids can struggle with the adjustment to living in two separate homes. As parents work to end their marriage and establish new living situations, they can take the following steps to help their children transition into this new phase of their lives:

  • Follow a regular schedule - Your divorce decree and parenting plan should include a schedule for each parent’s parenting time, and it is important to follow this schedule consistently. Make sure kids know the schedule and when they can expect to spend time with each parent. It is a good idea to keep a calendar in both homes that clearly displays the days when children will spend time with each parent.
  • Maintain consistency - Kids should have regular routines that they follow at both homes, letting them know when they can expect to eat meals, work on homework or chores, and go to bed. Work together with your ex-spouse to set rules, behavioral expectations, and methods of discipline that will apply in both homes.
  • Give them their own space - You can ease your children’s transition to a new living situation by keeping familiar objects in each home, such as clothes, toys, stuffed animals, or decorations. Kids may want to keep certain items at each home, or they may bring some items with them between homes. Allowing kids to help make choices about how to furnish or decorate their room is a good way to help them become more comfortable with their new living situation.
  • Allow communication - If children miss the other parent when they are staying with you, allow them to give the other parent a call, but do not require them to do so.
  • Follow regular pick-up and drop-off routines - Cooperate in transporting children between homes and keep these transitions conflict-free. Show up on time, and, if necessary, allow kids to have a few minutes of quiet time before they leave for the other parent’s home or after they arrive.

Contact a DuPage County Divorce Attorney

While the process of divorce can be difficult, it can ultimately provide a better environment for both children and parents by eliminating the stress of living in a home that is full of conflict. The experienced, compassionate attorneys of Anderson & Associates, P.C. can work with you and your spouse to address the legal issues that must be resolved during divorce and reach an agreement that protects your and your children’s best interests. Contact a Wheaton divorce lawyer today at 630-653-9400 to schedule a free consultation.

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Posted on in Divorce

DuPage County divorce lawyer, divorce myths, divorce agreement, divorce process, equitable division of propertyWhile that commonly-cited statistic that 50 percent of marriages end in divorce is not quite accurate (the actual number is difficult to determine, but it is estimated to be between 40 and 50 percent), most people have some experience with divorce, whether they have gone through divorce themselves, they are a child of divorced parents, or they have a close friend or family member who has divorced.

But even though divorce is an everyday part of American life, it is a somewhat distasteful subject, and this has let some myths about divorce to flourish. Consider the following common misconceptions about divorce of which spouses in Illinois will want to be aware:

  1. The mother will have primary custody of children - The idea that the kids will always stay with their mom, and dad will only see them every other weekend is somewhat old-fashioned, and Illinois law has provisions to ensure that parental responsibility and parenting time are allocated according to how involved each parent has been in their children’s lives, what the children want, and how well the parents can work together as they continue to raise their children following the divorce.

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