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Tips for Effective Parenting During the Divorce Process in Illinois

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Going through a divorce is among the most difficult situations a person can endure. While this is true with adults, the impact on a child can last even longer. This is especially the case in high-conflict divorces, which often lead to children experiencing more hardship as they adjust to post-divorce life. 

Whether you are able to reasonably co-exist and work with your soon-to-be ex-spouse, or you cannot stand the sight of them and likely face a prolonged court battle, it is essential to focus on the needs of any children you share. Here are a few tips that will help make their adjustment (and yours) easier:

Do Not Argue in Front of Your Children

Even divorces in which spouses collaborate in creating their divorce agreement involve the occasional argument, especially during child visitation exchanges. Whether it is in person or over the phone, do not fight with your ex within sight or earshot of your children. During this time, it is best to limit your conversations with your ex, and never engage in profane text message or email battles, as it can be used against you in court.

Do Not Attempt to Buy Your Child’s Affection

When you split custody for the first time, you naturally want your children to enjoy every minute they have with you. Sometimes this can devolve into a spending contest between divorcing spouses. You do not have to take extravagant trips, buy the newest gaming system, or purchase other expensive gifts. Providing support and stability is the best thing you can do for your child right now.

Ditch the Cell Phone for a While

Most of us are too dependent on our smartphones these days. The truth is, they often serve as an impediment to meaningful communication between individuals, whether you are spending too much time on social media, emails, or whatever. To increase your bond with your children, set aside blocks of time where technology takes a rest for all of you, and together you talk, go outside, or simply enjoy one another’s company without it.

Start New Family Traditions

Do not go to all the same places you went as a family prior to your split from your ex. This is your opportunity to do different things with your children, perhaps a new festival or amusement park you always talked about. By doing this, you may create a new tradition that your children will one day share with theirs.

Contact a Wheaton Divorce Attorney

Nothing can fully prepare you for what the divorce process will entail, but there are steps you can take to make it easier on you and your children. That includes trusting an experienced DuPage County divorce attorney with Anderson & Associates, P.C. to provide the necessary guidance and fight for the divorce decree you deserve. To set up a free consultation, call us at 630-653-9400 today.




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